Journal: Saturday, June 27, 2009

And the day continues....

Like I previously shared, the "convoy" rolled up in front of Nellie's house at about 11 AM on Saturday morning. Aliyah "Sissy" had fell asleep during the last two hours of the trip.

It was kind of tedious getting the U-Haul around the caldisac on her street. It just so happened that this weekend was the time of "Freedom Celebration" in the Fishers Community. This meant there were lots of cars and 'traffic' in the neighborhood.

Glen Jr wanted to get the U-Haul unloaded as quickly as possible. Getting the "big truck" off the street with the 'Celebration' happening. After unloading the "must have" items at Nellie's house, off we went to the storage facility.

Jeff went missing...then we found him on the back of the U-Haul.

What teamwork! The guys (and Nellie) really got the 'hand-off' happening.

Glen Jr. got to telling jokes while he was cleaning out the truck. Of course, Nellie "got" Daddy's joke ... she always does!

Glen Jr and I went to the hotel and got a much needed nap. Afterwards, dinner was prepared and ready....Jeff and Chris grilled the most scrumptious spread....

Enjoying dinner with Shelly, Nellie, Heidi....

Chris, Aaron, Jeff and Glen Jr.

And where was Sissy during this time? In her room, checking out the toy situation...right in the 'middle of things'!

We decided to go out for ice cream at the 'best ice cream shop in Indy' (or the world in my book!). Tomorrow I will share "Sissy's first ice cream cone" journal with you!

Hope the sun/son is bright for you today! :-]

Moving Day- Journal, Friday, June 26, 2009

("Sissy" sleeping on the floor of her 'empty' bedroom.)

The day had finally arrived! Seems like it was a looong way off... then, POW! it was here.

My youngest daughter, Rachelle (Shelly), her husband, Chris and grand-baby (Aliyah)decided to move to Indianapolis, Indiana with her sister; Danielle (Nellie) and husband, Jeff. So, Friday evening saw me and hubby (GP Jr) heading down to Proctorville, OH, where Shelly was currently living.

FRIDAY:

GP Jr and I headed out of town around 4:30 PM. We picked up the 17' U-Haul and arrived for the load at 7:00 PM. Some wonderful guys from the local church came by to help Chris and GP Jr get the truck loaded.

By 9:30 PM, we were ready to get some rest for the night. Aliyah (Sissy) came back to the hotel to spend the night with Nana and Pappy.

(Sissy dancing and singing in front of the mirror@)

Sissy got out some Lego's and had a grand time playing with us! We tried to go to sleep early, but it was around 11:30 PM before we were able to 'shut-down' for the night.

There was one MAJOR hitch! When we arrived in Huntington, WV (across from Proctorville) where we had our room reserved, we were made aware of a MAJOR water leak. 80% of Huntington had no water... with NO idea when the lead would be fixed... they predicted 6-8 hours!

So, we set the alarm for 3:30 AM. We had planned on pulling out at five in the morning. We thought if the water line was not repaired by then, we would take showers at Shelly's in the morning.

Well, around 2:00 AM, the water came back on! Such a blessing! We showered, woke Sissy up at 4:00 AM (What torture for a little one!). She was a real trouper!

We were back at Shelly's by 4:45 AM. I ran and got McDonald's Sausage Biscuits for everyone and hash browns for Sissy! By 5:06 AM, the U-Haul was a pulling out with the "convoy" (me in front, Shelly/Chris and Aliyah, then GP Jr in the U-Haul).

(Sissy trying to climb up into the U-Haul with her toys!)

At 5:39 AM we crossed the Kentucky state line! We followed route 64 West thru Lexington and Louisville where we followed route 65 North up to Indy. One gasoline stop and three "pit stops" later, we had arrived on the 465 By-Pass around Indy.

It is now 11:00 AM and we are pulling up in front of Danielle's house! Yippee! Yeah! All went well and we had a safe trip!

I will continue our journey on the blog tomorrow!

Wishing EVERYONE a safe, sunny day! Keep HIM with you and the day will be brighter, sunnier and BLESSED! :)

Off the page, into our hearts

I get multiple 'Forwards' in my email Inbox daily. Most of these messages I screen very carefully. Due to "beware of suspicious materials", I am careful in opening attachments. Some of them may be "harmful to your health" or at the very least, your PC's health!

Sometimes, I get an inspirational quote or story that really affects me! I love those kind. Each day I like to read a scripture, quote or article that will motivate me in a positive manner.

Well, the other day I received a list that was really good! It actually surprised me ~ it covered so many areas that I TRY to work on.. on a daily basis. (You will notice my emphasis on TRY!). I did find humor in the fact that this listing had 36 points. Why 36? I would have written 35 or 40, not 36! But since it is not my list, I do not get to critique... just enjoy!

Now, I want to share this list with you. If you only get ONE new idea or purpose out of this reading, it will be worth it. We should all be striving to make each day better than the next.... hope something hops "off the page, into your heart"... just like the daily WORD does. Encouraging, Enlightening, Moving and Inspirational.

The numbered points were written "anonymously"... the comments are by 'yours truly'!

1. Pray

This is a must. We cannot do without talking to the MASTER. His guidance and direction are imperative. (Also, his correction, OUCH!) Heard the saying years ago: "One week without prayer makes one weak". TRUE!

2. Go to bed on time.

This is a hard one for me! I am a night owl and (need to be) an early riser. These two combinations do not mix very well (oil & water comes to mind!).

3. Get up on time so you can start the day unrushed.

Man, do I go through 'spells' of getting this one, the 'NOT' getting it! It is true that starting the day out early, having a plan, preparing the day "unhurried" has it's definite advantages! Like, less ulcers!


4. Say No to projects that won't fit into your time schedule, or
that will compromise your mental health.

It is just so HARD to say "NO"! Especially if it is a project that you LOVE to do! Why do I LOVE so many different projects!?? Gets me in trouble EVERY TIME! Never thought of the "mental health" angle...really need to research that one!

5. Delegate tasks to capable others.

This has always been my major weakness. I like to be 'in control'. That is one of my strengths and weaknesses. It is VERY hard for me to trust others to do something that I envision. Will they do it as productively as I do? Will they care passionately about the task? I ask these questions over and over.

6. Simplify and un-clutter your life.

WOW! This one "SLAPS" me! I am a 'collector'. Was thinking on this very idea the other day. I surround myself with all my favorite things. This can really clutter up a life, desk, house.... MUST SIMPLIFY, MUST RED UP AND CLEAN OUT...

I need to set goals like:
~ If I haven't worn it in a year...it's gone.
~ I WILL file all my paperwork from work, church and personal 'stuff' in ONE area. (Why do I think I need to start a new file every time I begin filing? How many Electric Bill folders do I need? Obsessive Compulsive filer, I AM!)
~ Limit the number of "knickknacks" I can hold on to! Always said that if something happened to me, my girls would get so mad at me for collection so much stuff/junk! Most of it only has sentimental value to ME!

7. Less is more. (Although one is often not enough, two are often
too many.)

This one correlates strongly with #6. I want to apply this one more to my eating habits also! Still trying to get off some more "poundage". Mentally telling myself that a couple bites is better than a whole plate full of my favorite dishes. Gotta really "pshyc" myself up on this point....

8. Allow extra time to do things and to get to places.

My husband is my greatest help in this area! He is on time/every time. Too early most of the time! We ALWAYS leave to church an HOUR before it starts. Always have, always will...even earlier if we have something that needs attending to. There is no, "Where is the Pastor, is he coming tonight?". Nope. Present and accounted for.

Me on the other hand....I can get "caught up" and "side-tracked" in enjoying everything around me. That keeps me 'jumping from pillar to post' sometimes. Need to be more 'concentrated' on my task/goal. My "multi-tasking" can get out of hand at times....

9. Pace yourself. Spread out big changes and difficult projects
over time; don't lump the hard things all together.

I really like this challenge! Spreading out the "BIG" things would be so beneficial! Why didn't I think of that? :)


10. Take one day at a time.

Jesus spoke so much on "Take no thought of tomorrow, for tomorrow will take care of itself". Takes lots of patience to let this happen in your life. Sometimes I feel the need to "accomplish" or step in and "save the day".... I need to really loosen up in this regard!

11. Separate worries from concerns.

If a situation is a concern,find out what God would have you do and let go of the anxiety. If you can't do anything about a situation, forget it.

12. Live within your budget; don't use credit cards for ordinary
purchases.

OH MY! We live in a world of "Give me what I want NOW". That extends ALL of our budgets and allows anxiety and frustration to creep in. Must do better on curbing my "want" appetite.

13. Have backups; an extra car key in your wallet, an extra house
key buried in the garden, extra stamps, etc.

I can actually say that I have finally go this one down! With the help of my hubby AGAIN, we have backup keys EVERYWHERE!

My sister and daughters have had their fair share of problem with this matter. I won't go into detail, but MANY keys have been made and lost through the years! A certain young lady just recently got locked out of her new home AND her car within weeks of each other... I think she is finally getting the "can't have too many extra keys" lesson down!


14. K.M.S. (Keep Mouth Shut).

This single piece of advice can prevent an enormous amount of trouble. AMEN and AMEN! I used to wonder why Jesus said "Let your conversation be Yeah and Na". That is as simple as it gets folks! With my girls being married now, my advise needs to be asked for, not always supplied!

15. Do something for the Kid in “You” everyday.

I'm all about this! Yep, fun stuff still appeals to me! Keeps you young. Research says that kids laughs hundreds of times a day, while adults on in the low two digits....not wonder we need "laughter" medicine sometimes!

16. Carry a Bible with you to read while waiting in line.

This is awesome advise. Have done this at times in the past...need to resurrect this action. POWERFUL!

17. Get enough rest

You are no good to God or ANYONE if you are worn out!

18. Eat right.

A very vital part of living longer, more healthy and happier!

19 Get organized so everything has its place.

ORDER and PEACE go hand in hand!

20. Listen to a tape while driving that can help improve your
quality of life.

I ALWAYS have a CD in the player while traveling. The new Sara Renner project is speaking to me right now! (Thanks GA for the gift!) I'm not as much into inspirational talks...need to look into doing that more often.

21. Write down thoughts and inspirations.

I DO write down my thoughts and inspirations...the problem is, there are too many notebooks! Bits of 'ideas' can be found EVERYWHERE! My purse, my bible, my desk....Must refer to #19, QUICKLY!

22. Every day, find time to be alone.

This is SO vital! You can recoup and regroup your thoughts. Spend time 'taking inventory' without the noise of life coming through. These times are great to be ALONE, but not ALONE. Just you and God. He is the best. Always there... when you want to talk and when you just want to be silent.

23. Having problems?

Talk to God on the spot. Try to nip small problems in the bud. Don't wait until it's time to go to bed to try and pray. By then, it's usually sleepy time before you even get part way down your 'list'.

24. Make friends with Godly people.

Cannot even describe how important this is....making friends with Godly people. Hanging out with those who will encourage, strengthen and CHALLENGE you! I want to be better every day. I cannot do that with negativity and ungodliness surrounding me.

25. Keep a folder of favorite scriptures on hand.

I love my "favorites" and try to add more...need to make that a daily requirement.

26. Remember that the shortest bridge between despair and hope is
often a good 'Thank you Jesus.'

Thankfulness is the key to happiness. Found this to be true in every aspect of my life!


27. Laugh.

28. Laugh some more!

29. Take your work seriously, but not yourself at all.

We must realize that we are important, but not the MOST IMPORTANT. Keep it all in perspective...


30. Develop a forgiving attitude (most people are doing the best
they can).

One of the greatest lessons I have learned in my own life is: Allow people to "BE" who they are... accept the love they give and DO NOT be mad at them for not being who you think you 'want/need' them to be. They are what they are/You are what you are....Acceptance.

31. Be kind to unkind people (they probably
need it the most).

Yes. The same can be said of love...Jesus told us to love the unlovable...herein is the love of Christ shown.

32. Sit on your ego

Double WOW! Is my ego so big sometimes that I cannot even sit on it? Thought provoking....

33 Talk less; listen more.

This is something I need to work on. I love to listen, but sometimes like to "share" so much that I am talking more than I should.

34. Slow down.

Hard to do when your "plate is too full". Quiet times, slower times are so enjoyable. Must put them on my schedule more often...

35. Remind yourself that you are not the general manager of the universe.

I ain't? Well, that was a new revelation! Don't we all think that the world revolves around US! Reality check... lots more going on out there than just my little circle...LOTS MORE!


36 Every night before bed, think of one thing you're grateful for that you've never been grateful for before.

Love this. Always looking for ways to be thankful and things to be thankful for. Counting your blessings is a must...daily!

Love the song that THE ISAACS sing:

Thank you for the things that I've never thanked you for
You've given everything I need, still I ask for more
Not that I'm ungrateful, I'm just forgetful Lord
So, I thank you for the things that I've never thanked you for
What a list. If I could just read this every day and find new ways to apply the points, I would be a better person all around. I better get started RIGHT NOW!

How about you? Is there goals in your life that help you on a daily basis? Share, PLEASE. I love to hear from YOU!

Blessing to you to accomplish all the good things you have desired to accomplish today! :)

Written in the sky...

I know yesterday I talked about "The Visitation". Well, my mind is still in this 'vein'. I am trying HARD to not dwell on earthly matters 24/7. Heaven needs to be in my thoughts, in my view!

To keep someone on your mind, you need to remember everything you can about them. For God, we have to read about him and believe that HE is. We must love those around us, for his instruction was: How can you love me who you have not seen if you cannot love those who you have seen? Simple question....

I read the encouragement HE gives me in his TRUE, INFALLIBLE Word.

Isa 26:3 You will keep him in perfect peace, Whose mind is stayed on You, Because he trusts in You.

Phil 2:5 Let this mind be in you which was also in Christ Jesus,

Rom 12:2 And do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, that you may prove what is that good and acceptable and perfect will of God.

2 Tim 1:7 For God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power and of love and of a sound mind.

1 Pet 1:13 Therefore gird up the loins of your mind, be sober, and rest your hope fully upon the grace that is to be brought to you at the revelation of Jesus Christ;

Phil 4:8 Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things.

Acts 26:2 I think myself happy. (love this phrase!) In other words, "Don't Worry, Be Happy!" Think God!

Jeremiah 29:11 For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, says the LORD, thoughts of peace and not of evil, to give you a future and a hope.

HOPE. PEACE. JOY. I'll take these....more later!

The Visitation

I love company.

I REALLY love to get visitors when I have had time to prepare. That is a lot more fun. I can have the house 'just right', prepare some yummy food, snacks, desserts and wait in anticipation.

Are you a good waiter? I am not particularly.... patience is one of the 'harder' virtues for me! I may even admit that it is my HARDEST!

I have been know to pace... back and forth... anxiously waiting for my company to arive. During these "multiple" trips to look out the front door or window, I am reminded of the scripture....

"Watch and Pray".

With the same anticipaiton that I wait for my visitors/company here on earth, I should be 'watching' for the GRAND APPEARING OF MY SAVIOR! My heart is condemned....because I realize that there are many times I have had my mind and heart so set on 'this life', that I have forgotten to dwell on the 'next life'.

May I never forget that I am in a temporary place... in a world that is just a "preparation facility" for the real life... eternal life that is to come.

So, while I live and 'occupy' til HE comes, may I keep looking... watching... praying... anticipating with JOY his grand appearing. May I be happy to see him and have everything prepared for his visit.

Journal entry: June 23, 2009

Today is Tuesday, June 23, 2009.

I have told my children that I have started this blog. I hope that something written here will encourage them in the years to come. Why? Because it is my "written journal" ONLINE! When I am gone, they will no doubt find pieces of "thoughts" written down in many places.... my purse, my Bible, in my desk. These thoughts will not command their attention like these completed articles. When they are missing me or need answers, MAYBE I have written a blog that will direct them, give them hope, encourage them... even when I am not HERE for them any longer.

So, today I am going to "journalize" my day for posterity.

I awoke at 5:40 AM. This is the usual waking time for me. I did find it odd though that Jr (my name for my gorgeous hubby Glenville Paul McBride, Jr.) was not up yet! He sets the clock for 5:00 AM every morning, gets up when it goes off and jumps in the shower. It takes me a few minutes to awake and I usually arrise around 5:30. Well, today it was ME who said, "Honey, time to get up." This only happens when he is SUPER TIRED...this must be one of those mornings.

We will go about our morning routine, I will prepare his lunch bucket (fried egg sandwiches for his lunch), kiss him goodbye. Jr does not have to be at work until 7:00 AM, but prides himself on getting there early. Today he will not be the "earliest bird" there, but he is on his way!

Every morning I have to "prioritize" my day in my "head". What is the projects that have to be done TODAY? These are brought to the fore-front. They are stamped in big letters in the front of my brain so I will not miss completing them. Not to say that there have been times that I have missed a deadline! No, never fear, I am human...:)

Today I must complete my information packets for my agency's Board meeting this week. We usually meet on the 4th Monday of each month, but this month is special. Our meeting will be held on Thursday at the senior center of a neighboring county. It is time for our Annual Board Training from our regional office, so we will meet in Ritchie County to combine our agencies for the training, making it easier for the regionall representative.... two counties/one meeting. My idea, I like making things easier for everyone!

As I look ahead to the week, I know that it is pretty full. Lots of work today, clean house tonight, youngest daughter and grand-baby visiting tomorrow, church tomorrow night, work Thursday with Board meeting afterwards, Friday work then the fun begins....

My youngest daughter, Shelly, her husband, Chris, and my grand-baby, Aliyah, are moving to Indianapolis. They will be out there with my oldest daughter, Danielle, and her husband, Jeff. I am so happy for them all! Will I miss Shelly being 6 hours away now instead of 2? Why yes! It has been so nice to have her at least this close. BUT, we feel so good about this move/change. We know that it is good to have family around, and Shelly and Nellie (my short names for the girls!) will now have each other....they have lived apart since Nellie left for Bible College 7 years ago! WOW! Where did all the time go? I'm so glad that they will be able to be together again. It will just give me more reasons to take that Interstate 70 West that goes right to my girls!

So, this means that Jr and I will finish up work on Friday, head down to Proctorville, OH (where Shelly currently resides), help them pack up the U-haul, get a few hours sleep, get up at the "crack of dawn" on Saturday and begin our CONVOY. I call it that since we will have three vehicles (U-Haul, my car and Shelly's) rolling down the high-way. Aliyah "Sissy" will hopefully sleep most of the way, since we are hoping to get on the road early. It should take us between 5-6 hours to get there. Nellie and Jeff are excited and anxious to have the company for a while. We are so thankful for their love and hospitality extended to the family.

I have posted all this so that in the future, you may read my words, remember what happened, reminice about his move. You will know what I was thinkging, how I was feeling and be encouraged.

As I was writing my thoughts, I was reminded of the Word of God. How he allowed his feelings to be written so we can read his "heart" today. HE gave us such instruction and precious promises....

~ In my father's house are many mansions, if it were not true, I would have told you! I go to prepare a place for you... that where I am, ye may be also!

What precious promises! He wants me with him.... he is coming for me. I can read his "journal" and find out exactly how he feels. May my friends and family read mine and know how much they are loved, supported and cared for ....by me!

Note to self

Yes, I awoke this morning. What a nice thing to be able to do!

A myriad of thoughts and emotions grabbed me.... sending me reeling... with the first "firing" of my brain waves. WOW! What a machine my body is!! ~ full of production and feeling.

In the past few weeks, I have not been able to write on my daily blog. When I started the blog, I WANTED to write daily, but I have let my emotions stall me for a while... my creative juices kept rolling (I think I have 20 ideas for blogs in my "DRAFT" box), but I have been unable to COMPLETE THE TASK.

Today, I sit back and really ANALYSE this... why would I get a project all the way to the final task and not complete it? As I try my best to find out WHY I have let this happen, I realize it is not the first time in my life that I have been "afraid" to make a "last and final step".

To admit this is HUGE.

Why would I want to admit that I have fears?

To have to say that I am afraid of what MAY happen in life if I continue or "step forward" in some regards?

To confess that I am terrified at times to let my mind roll into some areas...

Why would I not take a FINAL step ~ all the while "knowing" that I have all the equipment, needs and supplies to make the trip successful?

WHAT IS HOLDING ME BACK?

My mind and heart first start giving excuses.... Oh, you are still grieving. That was one excuse that I really held onto... Yes, I have not been "totally" myself since the passing of my father. The "missing link" in my life from his absence has been so strong at times, that it OVERPOWERS my emotions. I can be discussing ANYTHING with my boss, co-workers, family, friends and the hurt will come up within me and try to choke my mind with thoughts like...

How can you go on with life like nothing has happened?

Why are you not rolled into a ball somewhere and allowing your heart to wallow in self-pity?

You need to "shut yourself" down and concentrate on how much you are hurting!

What does all this stuff you are discussing matter?

I SHAKE MYSELF. My mind, body and spirit knows better than to listen to this type of instruction. WHY? HOW do I know "better" than to allow myself to escape into "self-pity"?

BECAUSE I KNOW HIM. HIM. THE ONE TRUE LIVING GOD.

Many mock spiritual revelations and guidance. Many say "you are weak to allow a spirit to guide you"... "You and only You can control your life/destiny". Well, I beg to differ and am glad to admit.

MY LIFE IS NOT MY OWN.

One day, a stranger (to me) came and bought this totally abandoned, no account, struggling little lost soul and offered me restoration. Without HIM I would have traveled the "fear" road forever and indefinitely... without HOPE of ever getting off!

He gave me "options" like ~ "Trust in me with all your heart and lean not to your own understanding, acknowledge me, and I'll direct your paths".

So, I can KNOW, UNDERSTAND and BELIEVE but still need to IMPLEMENT.

Implementation is where I sometimes "shut down". I get the "knowing, understanding and believing" parts accomplished.... but the step of faith that will prove that I have all the 'goods'... in this regard I falter... I pause... I 'freeze'.

In looking back in retrospect... I do recognize many times that this "pause" has come...

When I walked around in a haze of hurt and confusion when my parents split up. I was 13 years old. This was the when the "freezing" times started... when I was totally "knocked down" by the realization that life can throw some really BAD stuff at you sometimes! Prior to this time, I think I lived in an almost "fairy tale mentality".

I thought everything would always be WONDERFUL ~ life would always be FAIR ~ and nothing could hurt me as long as we (my family) stood together and "fought the good fight of faith".

When this 'bubble burst', then my real "fears" began. I realized that I could be a target! That the winds of change and life could be cruel... cutting you with fierce, tornado - like winds.

Since that time of "awakening", I have endured and suffered many disappointments in life just like everyone... just like you. You name the darkest problem you have faced and I or a close friend or family member have been there... experienced it first-hand. As I talk to people more and more, I realize that no one is IMMUNE. We have ALL been attacked by some of life's most horrific abuses.

So, let's be HONEST! We are daily struggling with SOMETHING! Yes, I can smile, find joy in my salvation and smile most of the time.

BUT, underneath, I need help.

Daily I need to seek and ask for the "guidance, instruction and protection" from above. Sometimes it is protection from myself.

Note to self:

(My Prayer) I admit that I am weak. And that is OK. For in your WORD, you say that in my "weakness, YOU are strong". I like that I can depend on YOUR strength. Remind me, help me remember that... that I NEED YOU!

So, today I am breaking my "ice" AGAIN! I get online and I "make myself" face life... step into the unknown... share some of myself again. WHY? Maybe it's because you are at the "implementation stage" too! And you need that extra, "JUST DO IT" word...well, here it is...

Go Ahead.

Take hold of God's hand.

He will never harm you.

You can trust him explicitly.

You're at the peak, you need to take the next step...

Take a breath and move forward...



See, it was not so bad. Nothing to be so afraid of. Just another dimension or path to start following that may be a little different... but BETTER if the Master is leading the way. And believe me... YOU ARE NOT ALONE!

Inside out

(My oldest brother shared this story with me....now I want to "pass it on". May we never forget where true love and worth lie....)

Clay Balls

A man was exploring caves by the Seashore. In one of the caves he found a canvas bag with a bunch of hardened clay balls. It was like someone had rolled clay balls and left them out in the sun to bake. They didn't look like much, but they intrigued the man, so he took the bag out of the cave with him. As he strolled along the beach, he would throw the clay balls one at a time out into the ocean as far as he could.

He thought little about it, until he dropped one of the clay balls and it cracked open on a rock. Inside was a beautiful, precious stone!

Excited, the man started breaking open the remaining clay balls. Each contained a similar treasure. He found thousands of dollars worth of jewels in the 20 or so clay balls he had left.

Then it struck him. He had been on the beach a long time. He had thrown maybe 50 or 60 of the clay balls with their hidden treasure into the ocean waves. Instead of thousands of dollars in treasure, he could have taken home tens of thousands, but he had just thrown it away!

It's like that with people. We look at someone, maybe even ourselves, and we see the external clay vessel. It doesn't look like much from the outside. It isn't always beautiful or sparkling, so we discount it.

We see that person as less important than someone more beautiful or stylish or well known or wealthy. But we have not taken the time to find the treasure hidden inside that person.

There is a treasure in each and every one of us. If we take the time to get to know that person, and if we ask God to show us that person the way He sees them, then the clay begins to peel away and the brilliant gem begins to shine forth.

May we not come to the end of our lives and find out that we have thrown away a fortune in friendships because the gems were hidden in bits of clay. May we see the people in our world as God sees them?

This story also reminds me of the many times we take true love for granite. Many have thrown the true love of God, friends and family away.... wanting something the was more appealing, more beautiful....only to realize that what they had originally was the best.

Allow yourself to accept love. It doesn't always come in the "brightest, most sparkly" form, but it is real, everlasting and life changing.

Keeping up on my end...

This week I have purposed to get a lot of things accomplished.

My "want to" list:

* Go to the tanning bed at least 3 days a week until August to prepare myself for the summer sun in Texas....going to visit my brother and don't want to be suffering like a lobster!

* Get back on the diet that I have let slide for the last 2 months....haven't gained any weight back, but need to "persevere" to keep on my track to loose at least 40 more pounds (160 sticks of butter!).

* Making time for "visits"....get to meet up with two dear friends (one from Bible School that now lives in Florida, one childhood friend who lives in Ohio) while I make my rounds visiting Mother, Brother and Step-Ma.

* Planning the youngest daughter's "MOVE" to her older sister's in Indianapolis. We are all excited about that!

* I am going to be able to plan my July 4th vacation (Friday/Saturday/Sunday) and focus on my GARAGE CLEANING! Hope to get it totally clean and prepared for major renovations! Need that extra family room NOW!

* Take time to read some of the books (I bought three so far!) that I purchased for summer reading.

So, getting "beautified", visiting, cleaning and relaxing (reading, etc...) is part of my plan to keep my life busy, active and balanced....add "walking in the spirit", meditating on HIM and listening for heavenly commands, and that about "sums up" my plan. What's yours? Keep up your end.... stay busy and productive.... physically and spiritually. You will not only be helping yourself, but everyone around you. Like it is said, "If you want something done, find a busy person". I think that is so true.....

Warriors, we are

We may see her face, even know her as an "aquaintance", but do we recognize her as a spiritual warrior....someone who reaches heaven with her prayers?

This is one of my favorite songs of all time....remember getting the tape (yes, cassette!) when it was first released in 1988 (Compilation project featuring Sheri, Candy Hemphill Christmas, and Tonya Goodman Sykes).

It moved me then, and continues to move me now....



PRAYER WARRIOR (T.Goodman Sykes/M. Sykes/ C. Cloninger)

We may see her in the grocery with her children
Or in the city nine to five each working day
She's a mother or a teacher or a woman all alone
But she's someone else entirely when she prays

She's a prayer warrior down on her knees
Wrestling with power and principalities
Standing in the gap for others
For her sisters and her brothers
Reaching heaven with her heart

We don't see her lonely nights of intercession
Or that tear she shed with every whispered name
We may not see the simple things hidden in her heart
But the eyes of God are watching her with care

And we'll never wholly know the debt we owe her
For we'll never know the evil we've been spared
Many nights she's crushed through Satan’s strongholds
Reaching heaven with her prayers


I couldn't find the original track, but YouTube had a ladies group singing it...here is the link:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Xg-1NhMCqw8

Blessings to you today. May you be blessed and given much joy and answers because of a "Prayer Warrior" in your life....somewhere....

Our duty, our right

I love to read motivational quotes, readings and thoughts. A few years ago (2006 to be exact), Mark Condon wrote a Plan for Success for the year. He included the following point. (I will share more points later, I have kept this list hung in my office for four years now, inspirational!).

TAKE PERSONAL RESPONSIBILITY:
"You must stop blaming everything and everyone for why you are where you are and why your ministry or your department is where it is today because of something or someone. You are where you are today because of your thinking, preparation, and action of your yesterdays. You will be tomorrow for the thinking, preparation and action that you take today. Stop complaining that take responsibility for where you are." (Mark Condon)

Other "responsibility" quotes include:

"I must do something" always solves more problems than "Something must be done."

If you mess up, 'fess up.

The willingness to accept responsibility for one's own life is the source from which self-respect springs. ~Joan Didion




Most of us can read the writing on the wall; we just assume it's addressed to someone else. ~Ivern Ball

We need to restore the full meaning of that old word, duty. It is the other side of rights. ~Pearl Buck

I believe that every right implies a responsibility; every opportunity, an obligation; every possession, a duty. ~John D. Rockefeller, Jr.

We have the Bill of Rights. What we need is a Bill of Responsibilities. ~Bill Maher

When you blame others, you give up your power to change.

Even when we know what is right, too often we fail to act. More often we grab greedily for the day, letting tomorrow bring what it will, putting off the unpleasant and unpopular. ~Bernard M. Baruch



I don't see the point of being a human being if you're not going to be responsible to your fellow human beings. Selfishness thefts away the human and reduces you to just a being. ~Candea Core-Starke

The best years of your life are the ones in which you decide your problems are your own. You do not blame them on your mother, the ecology, or the president. You realize that you control your own destiny. ~Albert Ellis

Duty is what one expects from others. ~Oscar Wilde

You are not responsible for the programming you picked up in childhood. However, as an adult, you are one hundred percent responsible for fixing it. ~Ken Keyes, Jr.

Few things help an individual more than to place responsibility upon him, and to let him know that you trust him. ~Booker T. Washington

God has entrusted me with myself. ~Epictetus

We have not passed that subtle line between childhood and adulthood until... we have stopped saying "It got lost," and say "I lost it." ~Sidney J. Harris

I have pondered the above thoughts, knowing that the hardest part of wanting to "grow up" is the rush of responsibility that accompanies this desire. Maturity means I have taken on the "right to be a grownup" and take care of my duties....to my God, my family and my country.




The greatest way to feel good about yourself is to take responsibility for your actions...good or bad...own up to them. You will come out a stronger, bigger person...someone you won't be afraid to see in the mirror.

Lessons Learned

I have a memory of a well-learned lesson...

It was of a time before McDonald's in our area. Mom wound take us every Saturday to go grocery shopping for the week. We would not shop in our little city, but go about 15 miles up the road, across the bridge from WV into Steubenville, OH, where there was no "food tax". She felt she was getting "more for her money, more BANG for her buck."

Each Saturday also held another fun event... we would eat lunch at a local "fast food restaurant". Ever heard of Border Burger? It was BEFORE Burger King. Well, Steubenville had a Border Burger and that is where we would grab a sandwich before heading back over the bridge towards home. Fun time... as a child, it's the little things that felt so HUGE and exciting.

Well, one day I remember clearly. Mom ordered me and my brothers a sandwich. The boys were older than me and growing quickly. They could eat quite a bit and then be hungry again a short while later... just normal routine for "growing boys". Mom had gotten the boys a "Big Burger" and me a Cheeseburger. I remember opening my sandwich... realizing that the boys had gotten bigger sandwiches than me and throwing a fit! Now, I was not a "fit-thrower" and don't remember doing so very often during my formative years, but I remember this one. I threw my sandwich down and said, "That's not fair".... and proceeded to "unsuccessfully" tell my Mom that I should have gotten a big sandwich, "Just like the boys". She explained that I was too little to handle a big sandwich (I "think" I was about 6 at the time!) and that I would either pick up the sandwich and eat or do without.

I have wondered through the years why I remembered that episode so clearly. I know that I was mad for a while, and even remember the hurt I felt while crying. I think it was the first time in my life that I realized that "life would not always be fair".

Why do I look back and share such an action? I think because many individuals are still throwing fits. I see it on a daily basis. Work related-issues that keep tempers heated, siblings who feel they are not treated evenly, a wife who thinks her husband gets to all the fun things.... and the list goes on.

ACCEPTANCE.

I do not mean that you are suppose to "resign" yourself to life. I have seen the defeated emotions in many and do not think that God is pleased if we loose the "spark, joy" out of our being! No!! But I do mean that the things that are true, just and absolute should be accepted. We shouldn't allow our "selfishness" and "wanting my own way" to interrupt our lives on a daily basis.

Sure, there are times our human nature would "think" that we want things differently. Stop and look.... count your blessings... take inventory. Categorize the good things and hold on to them tight. God, family, friends, health.... don't throw them away on a "whim" or "want". These are NEEDS and we need to protect them.

Will I ever get upset again of feel that I have been treated "Unfairly"? Yes, I am human. Will I let the anger of the unfairness turn to bitterness or total emotional upset? No. I learned a lesson that day and it has stuck.....lesson well learned.

It hasn't been easy

Don't judge a book by it's cover...Don't let the outside fool you. The inside of a person holds many insights, truths and experiences...and they are not all pleasant.

Take a trip with me...

I'm looking at a lady, she is in her seventies now. She is still "a babe" (like my dear bro would say). Her family surrounds her with love and admiration. I have seen her give of her whole substance... she always has an eye/ear out for a need. Whether it means baking cookies/fudge (with a little help!) and taking them to her best friend who is grieving or watching her grandchildren with love. You will never find a better caregiver.... a loving hand to her aging mother and sick husband. As I watch her, all I see is her love extended ~ her quick smile ~ her sincere hospitality ~ giving her last dime, and wishing she had more to give.

What you do not see is the hurt, the abuse that she has endured. Raised six children, showed them abounding love in situations that would have knocked us off our foundation, for sure. I won't tell the details, you could only begin to imagine the pain.

If anyone ever thinks they have a reason for bitterness, hatred, murderous thoughts... it is this lady. But I have never seen these traits in her that others cling to so readily. If you sit down and talk about life with her (which is so great to do, she is amazing.... she will not judge you... there is nothing she has not experienced first hand!), she will listen, advise and then say some of the most profound words...

Talk it out, Leave it behind, Get over it, Move Forward...

Some may think this is hard, calloused and unfeeling. I call it "Tough Love" in it's truest form.

I have watched her set the rules in her household trying to help an alcoholic/drug addicted son. When he broke the rules, I was there one night when his buddy tried to bring him home drunk. She told him no, set his clothes on the porch and told him to come back when he decided to do the right thing... she would be waiting. WOW! I was so inspired... this is what true love looks like.

Love that will BE THERE, waiting. Never changing, just "IS".

But my whole reason for telling about this amazing woman is this....

Don't think that just because she enjoys life, that it has been easy. Don't judge her life by the outward appearance of her sunny nature!

This week I had someone make some statements that reminded me of some fundamental parts of "really living". They started to tell of their hurts and tried to say I was "fake" in my quest to love them... they felt I didn't understand their relationships and needs. Like I had not experienced those things in my life.

Not so. I will not go into detail of my darkest moments and life-long experiences. I will not fill you in on all the hurt, broken promises, sinking, plunging, spiteful acts that were thrown at me. We all have our "baggage". Sorry to say, but some worse than others....

Where did they get that idea? That I could not possibly understand? Just because I choose to smile? Just because I can be happy? If they only knew...

Sometimes I share some of my "journey", but sometimes when I know it will do no good, I just have to stand strong and try not to defend myself too harshly. Yes, I have suffered, buy joy has come to me! Just like I hope it comes to them. I have always given total thanks for the Lord above for his presence in my life. My smiles and happiness come from him alone. My testimony is always this, "Yes, I needed God for my salvation and I thank him for that! But, my greatest need was for peace of mind and heart. He gave me that freely... and for that I am forever grateful!". That is my sincere, true testimony.

Yes, I too can find many reasons (if I so desire) to be depressed, beaten down, discouraged, enraged, doubtful, suspicious, and unhappy. I can pick up those emotions any time I want to...

BUT I DON'T WANT TO...

And I truly am sad for those who do. Be very careful... if you are continually accusing others of not "fulfilling" your need for love, you need to look in the mirror. Yes, love can be given to you.... right before your eyes... true and raw... in it's most perfect form... and you can miss it. Love has rules, you must obey and abide in HIM to get them. Remember, God is love, can't have real love without HIM. Simple.

So, when you think I just "don't get it" because I do not get all hung up on emotional baggage...that somehow I am not feeling your pain because I will not live in past failures/insecurities, think again. I am where I am because I have let God and life teach me a few things, and then have chosen the high road. My only prayer and hope is that you will choose this path too. It's the only road with benefits.... the other will kill, steal and destroy all the goodness in you. That I could not bear.

There is a passage that Paul wrote that has always "haunted' me... spoke to my spirit. May I love others enough to feel like he did... to pray this prayer for them.

Ephesians 3:14-19 (King James Version)

¹⁴For this cause I bow my knees unto the Father of our Lord Jesus Christ,

¹⁵Of whom the whole family in heaven and earth is named,

¹⁶That he would grant you, according to the riches of his glory, to be strengthened with might by his Spirit in the inner man;

¹⁷That Christ may dwell in your hearts by faith; that ye, being rooted and grounded in love,

¹⁸May be able to comprehend with all saints what is the breadth, and length, and depth, and height;

¹⁹And to know the love of Christ, which passeth knowledge, that ye might be filled with all the fulness of God.

I admit it....life here can be cruel and unpleasant at times. But God gave us the ability and inner strength to conquer these things....they cannot move us, unless we allow them to. Big Mountain, Bigger God.

So, when you see my happiness and joy, don't think that I have not suffered..... I smile bigger because I have and now know the secret..... I am not bound by fear.... I am free to live victorious through Jesus Christ. He that the son has set free is free INDEED.

THAT is my testimony.

What's in your sack?

I was always intrigued by the stories in the Bible about the "sower". With all the new machinery today, the image of a farmer planting seed is not common... well, maybe not for you, but it is in my part of the world.

That is one reason I love the "country", the "rural WV". Yes, we have our big cities (OK, not "BIG" to some points of view!) but with our beautiful scenic landscape, most residents of WV live in a "down-home, country" sort of way! A little bit of "take life easy" and "stop by and chat a while" mentality is still here and strong. I like that... always was a talker and it's always nice to have someone to talk to!

I can tell when Spring is on the way because the tractors come out in full force. You may get behind one on any stretch of road. Exasperating and hopeful at the same time....it means, "It's gardening time!"

The percentage of residents in my county have gardens. My, even some of them grow "organically correct" foods and offer them at "markets" (YUMMY!). I still do not believe there is anything better than fresh garden produce.... green onions, cabbage, leafy lettuce, ripe tomatoes, crispy cucumbers, new potatoes and my favorite, sweet corn on the cob! You can add a lot of your favorites to that list.

As I see the options for planting and growing, I also reflect on the spiritual options in my "spiritual" garden.

Each day is a fresh garden, with 'newly plowed' fields. Will I ruin it with bitterness, hatred, spiteful words, unfriendly acts? Or will I embrace it, marvel at it's wonder and allow the 'sweet' produce to take root and grow?

Random acts of kindness

Smiles to a stranger

Forgiveness by the bushels

Joy that spilleth over

Peace that confounds the wise

Gentle touches

and Faith that grows without boundaries

As I examine my limitless supply, I ask you.... what is in your "planting" sack of seeds today?

Before Rachael Ray...I AM!

Who entitled Mrs. Rachael Ray with the "30 Minute Meal Queen" crown? What's that all about? Thirty minute meals have been around since....well, since housewives have been cooking, which has been like... forever!

I realize that kitchens (and cooks) have come a long way ~

The HOT kitchens ~ the huge stoves that had beans cooking on them all day long ~ the smell of hot rolls rising from the oven ~ homemade assortment of jellies in the pantry ~ cookies, fudge, cakes and pies....all with great ingredients (no box mixes here!) ~ sun tea on the porch ~ dinner meats and casseroles seasoned to perfection ~ recipe boxes full of scrumptious meals just waiting to be prepared.

Oh, those were the days! It would be nice to be able to keep up with all that "homemade goodness' in our homes.

BUT~

With life going by so fast, a quick meal is a "must" most of the time....we have places to go! Always must be somewhere, QUICK! Hence the need for a "quick meal".

My hubby is always amazed when I pull out a balanced meal. He can look in the fridge and cupboards and think "there is nothing to eat"! Half hour later I can have a meat, potato, vegetable and fruit sitting on the table.

It just takes a little planning ahead and a little "ingenuity" (I like that word! It means cleverness, skill, resourcefulness, originality and creativity....WOW! I like all of them there words! ).

I keep a few of the following staples in "stock" and will share a few quick tips with you!


ALWAYS keep these items on hand:

~ Velveeta Cheese

Velveeta has saved me at events more than once.

My kids have enjoyed cheese dip at our house (1/2 Big Box of Velveeta and one can of Rotel Tomatoes (w/chives)) for a LONG time (served with ANY type of tortilla chip). Way back when I attended Jackson College of Ministries (JCM- Yep, a few years ago:)), a dorm/house mother made this dip for us. I have used it ever since....before the recipe was on the cheese box! WAY before...OK, you get how long I have done this....a lot longer than Rachael Ray ever thought it up! :D

Velveeta also offers the BEST grilled cheese sandwiches, the best topping on vegetables ( I ALWAYS put cheese on my broccoli!) and even in my scrambled eggs and hashbrowns. Cheese is the best..... a gift from the gods for a cook!

~ Marshmallow

I pick up the cheap marshmallow cups at the Dollar Store around the holidays. They are inexpensive and so usable. Fudge and Hot Chocolate are not complete without these items. I make a pretty mean fudge and I ALWAYS use the Fantasy Fudge recipe off of the original Marshmallow Cream Jar!

Did you know that ANY FLAVOR of chips can make outstanding fudge? This last holiday season I experimented.....what fun! I made all kinds of fudge, like: Milk Chocolate, White Chocolate, Reese Cup, Peppermint Patty and Peanut Butter. You can add walnuts to any of the above, my favorite is black walnuts in the White Chocolate and regular walnuts in the Milk Chocolate.

Hot Chocolate is just not complete without a scoop of marshmallow on top! Yummy surprise! Pour in a few squirts of coffee and sprinkle with cinnamon and they'll think they've been to Starbucks!

~ Celery or Mushroom Soup

For those who do not like mushroom soup, celery soup will substitue just fine.

I prefer celery soup in my potato soup recipe and I use mushroom soup in multiple fashions. Example: After you brown your cube steaks (frying them in a skillet after rolling them in flour and seasonings) with onions, green peppers and mushrooms, you put your steaks in a slow pot with mushroom soup. Oh my, this is favorite way to make a "fall-apart, great tasting" cube steak. Gravy already made with the broth, just serve with Mashed Potatoes and a vegetable. Whalla!

Mushroom soup is also great in Green Bean Casserole and ~ believe it or not! Sausage Gravy. Another country cook I know shared this tip with me.... it so works! Will "thicken" just about anything in a pleasing manner!

~ Butter Flavored Crisco (BFC)

BFC is the best!

My mother-in-law has perfected the deer steak recipe. She takes the choice deer cuts, pounds them thin! (I mean, you can see through the meat!) and browns them in the BFC. Of course she rolls them in flour and seasonings like I do my cube steak. She then COVERS them in onions in her slow pot. She puts VERY LITTLE water. Just enough to moisten. The steaks have the BEST taste and fall apart......Perfection!

~ Cans of LIGHT Fruit

Due to some of my family having Diabetes, I try to get the canned fruit that is in LIGHT syrup. This lower sugar content is better for EVERYONE! I try to always have two or three seasonal fresh fruits in the house to snack on. Well, when you have company (sometimes you were NOT expecting!), you can open some fruit and cut up your fresh fruit....instant dessert! If you are lucky enough to have an angel food cake, sponge cake or Cool Whip, you can top this selection off with style! Spread on some ice cream toppings (chocolate, strawberry, pineapple, nuts...) and you have a real "tropical" treat!

~ Cream Cheese

Our family just cannot survive without our cream cheese. It can be purchased now in Light and Fat Free varieties!

We put cream cheese in our instant mashed potatoes over 25 years ago! Now you can find recipes for its use everywhere.

We used to have dinners for the church and once I heard a lady say, "I come here for the homemade mashed potatoes, they are the best I have ever eaten!" while I was pouring in the instant potatoe flakes! :) We just boil the water, butter, canned milk (I'll get to that item next!) and cream cheese... add the flakes to your liking (consistency). Salt/Pepper to taste.

My mother-in-law (since I have learned so much from her, I'm sure you already know she is like the best country cook, EVER!) uses cream cheese in her shredded chicken recipe. (Using chicken pieces, dressing, cream cheese, onions, cream of chicken soup/chicken gravy and baking to a golden perfection.

Cream cheese makes the best cheese balls, dessert toppings and dip. Multiple recipes can be found using this wonderful creation! Nothing like mixing some cream cheese and cool whip for a wonderful fruit dip...for color/flavor, add some Kool-Aid packets. Sugar if you must...remember, Splenda is a GREAT sugar substitute!

~ Canned Milk

Since I love to make the fudge, canned milk is a common staple in the cabinet.

Canned milk can also be used in/on: Gravy, Instant Mashed Potatoes and Hot Chocolate.

As I go, I have to share a really quick, refreshing recipe, it's called Pineapple Surprise. Take a can of clunked pineapples (the smaller the better), drain them, add them to a container of cottage cheese and instant vanilla pudding. This is one of the most tasty, refreshing desserts out there....quick and easy too! I have "modified" this recipe and used pistachio pudding for a very tasty option! Use your imagination....the cottage cheese serves as a quick "pudding" option to add your flavorings to.

These are just a few "quick" tips that I use. Want to share some of your "quickes" with me? Would love to hear from you....drop me a comment....everyone loves a new recipe/idea. We do have to eat, right? May as well spice it up right....:D

Guess What?

As soon as we hear the words, "Guess What?...." we respond, "What?". It is human nature. We want to know what is going on everywhere to everyone.

Did you know that _______________? Gossip... it can be deadly.

There is someone I know that thinks he has to tell me a (negative) statement about someone every time he sees me. Each time I try to ignore the statement or say, "I just don't want to hear that right now, OK?" Just because I am the preacher's wife, doesn't mean I need to know all the "dirt". I would rather not.

I want to think good of others. A wise man once said, "You need to forgive. You may see someone sin and go off "spreading the word" on the act. That person may have felt convicted, went before God, repented and received forgiveness. Meantime, you are off telling everyone of his horrible deeds. Who is the sinner now?" WISE WORDS!

He also said, "Always forgive and keep the door open for a sinner, you never know when they will see the error of their ways and want to return home (back to the house of the Lord). If you don't forgive and talk about them, they will not feel the need to return....such a loss."

Gossip destroys, lies are harsh and unrelenting. Nothing hurts quite as bad as a mean, bold-faced lie. God has a few things to say about feet that spread those type of actions....

Proverbs 6:16-19 (King James Version)

¹⁶These six things doth the LORD hate: yea, seven are an abomination unto him:

¹⁷A proud look, a lying tongue, and hands that shed innocent blood,

¹⁸An heart that deviseth wicked imaginations, feet that be swift in running to mischief,

¹⁹A false witness that speaketh lies, and he that soweth discord among brethren.

My GOODNESS! In reading this, I realize that if someone has a gossiping nature, they can be guilty of FIVE (5) of the SEVEN (7) things that God HATES! He doesn't just "not like"....HE HATES THESE THINGS....Why? Because they DESTROY! God likes to encourage, built up, multiply, inspire....not destroy!

Yes, a heart that lies, deviseth wicked thoughts, runs to tell about it, bears false witness and sows all that garbage to everyone he/she sees...... well, you ought to stay FAR away from such a person. Bit-O-Wisdom...if they will talk about someone else in a untruthful manner, they will talk about you! Sweet and Sour water cannot come from the same spicket... a fountain cannot flow with clean and dirty water at the same time!

I want to keep my spiritual radar out. Not to be quick to criticize, but to be able to "know good from evil". I don't want to believe lies, think bad thoughts about someone or run and spread the "nasty news".

Whatsoever things are TRUE, honest, just, pure, holy, lovely and of a good report....I want to fill my mind with these things.

I see others just wanting to know the BAD News ~ Did you hear who murdered who? ~ Did you know that so-and-so were in jail for such-and-such? ~ Did you know who was in trouble this week...AGAIN? Their mind is just full of "negative data". No inspiration there...all "doom and gloom".

The Golden Rule in Biblical language:

Matthew 7:12
Therefore all things whatsoever ye would that men should do to you, do ye even so to them: for this is the law and the prophets.

Good things.....My Dad had a saying, "Think Good Thoughts!". He used it often when I was growing up. Whenever negative or harmful things were being spoken, he would use this phrase. What true, profound instruction.

Today, if I cannot say or think anything nice, I will aspire to say nothing at all. May I guard my tongue AND my ears. Lord, let me be careful to not only say anything evil against another, and not allow myself to listen or agree with anyone else who does the same.

AMEN. Join me, hope you only have nice things to say....:)

Which way?

WOW! What would you do in this case? Think the policeman would give you a citation if you did which one? Both?

Feels a lot like life, right? Should I, or shouldn't I? Stay or Go? Take it or Leave it? Yell or Shut up? Cry or Smile...

In relationships, love and loyalty makes you stay when sometimes the situation is never going to improve and you should leave. Then SOMETIMES, the situation does turn around and things get better. When you are a Christian, I believe you have great faith that God will change circumstances to your betterment. Sometimes he does and says yes, and sometimes he says NO.

If you decide to walk away from a very hurtful, abusive (physically, mentally, psychologically....) relationship, why do you blame yourself over the exit? Like it was somehow all your fault? If you know you did all you could do to satisfy your mates' wants and desires, you have given all that is humanly possible to give. .. there is nothing else to give, not even your guilt. To top it off, if someone is in a relationship to just RECEIVE, the union will never be solvent or longstanding. Acceptance, Giving and Understanding are the keys that hold trusting, honest unions together, NOT Blame, Selfishness and Unthoughtful acts. I guess some people's definitions or love and commitment are different from mine.

Changing the rules....I cannot abide someone who changes the rules... CONTINUALLY! Like a parent who can never say they are proud of a child's accomplishments, they just point out the errors ~ Or a boss who is forever setting the standards higher so you cannot obtain a goal ~ Or a friend who is forever putting you down to make themselves look better. Rule Changing breads discontent and bitterness.... nothing there that I want to plant in my life! Oh my, I am on a "soap box".... better jump down for now....just REALLY get RILED when anyone THRIVES on making others belittled. Surely not how my Jesus treats others or US!

So, when we are confused and don't know which way to go....what then? We pray, seek spiritual guidance, listen for HIS answers (they come in MANY forms) and then we obey. Whatever the answer is, we concede. His ways are not like ours. His thoughts are not like ours. AND HE wants the very best for us.

I was thinking upon a couple of relationships today. Both of these ladies had endured abusive relationships. God had allowed them freedom from their past and such joy was now possible for them. HE opened up a whole new, un-abusive world for them. That is LOVE. For someone, anyone, to say that it was not God's will for them to depart from these unions, I have to disagree. HE knows what we can take and just as we fight to keep our children happy, safe and cared for, HE does the same.

I rejoice in his leading, his direction. May I also rejoice when others are given direction and leading also. We want to be heading in the right direction.

Right or Left? Up or Down? May I use every possible spiritual avenue given by God to make the decisions I need to make. And may I be SO CAREFUL in the answers and counsel I give another. They deserve heaven's best, just as well as I do.