Unsafe People

I am finding that you CAN find informative, encouraging words EVERYWHERE!.. even on Facebook! Of course that can depend on who your "friends" are on that 'networking highway'.

One of my friends started listing the "Unsafe People" points. I was intrigued. After searching for this on the Internet, I found this list from the book by Doctors Henry Cloud and John Townsend.

So, of course, I want to share this list with YOU! I also will share the "Safe People" list with you tomorrow.... it comes from the same book, but I have a PLUS! I found a longer, more extensive list on another blog! I will have all that for you tomorrow! (Lord willing and if the creeks don't rise!)

Here is the listing of "Unsafe People" for you to read, ponder and implement. It is helpful for finding relationships that are healthy and avoiding those that are not.

I am convinced that we are a 'product of our environment' and take on the traits of our family and friendship "groups". "Birds of a feather flock together" is so true and has been proven over and over again. If you 'live with it' (an addiction, trait, ect...) long enough, you will become 'desensitized' and not see the negative affects of these personality types.

Wake UP! Really look at your life in conjuction with those you surround yourself with...if you want to become a better person, start with your heart, then survey the hearts around you...

UNSAFE PEOPLE

1. Think they have it all together instead of admitting their weaknesses.

2. Are defensive instead of open to feedback.

3. Are self-righteous instead of humble.

4. Only apologize instead of changing their behavior.

5. Avoid working on their problems instead of dealing with them.

6. Demand trust, instead of earning it.

7. Believe they are perfect instead of admitting their faults.

8. Blame others instead of taking responsibility.

9. Will lie instead of being honest.

10. Are stagnant instead of growing.

11. Avoid closeness instead of connecting.

12. Are only concerned about "I" instead of "we" (not relationship centered)

13. Resist freedom instead of encouraging it.

14. Condemn us instead of forgiving us.

15. Stay in parent/child roles instead of relating as equals.

16. Are unstable over time instead of being consistent.

17. Are a negative influence on us, rather than a positive one.

18. Gossip instead of keeping our confidences.

You may remember this verse:

True humility and fear of the Lord lead to riches, honor, and long life.
Proverbs 22:4

Or this one:

Pride ends in humiliation, while humility brings honor.
Proverbs 29:23

The WORD is FULL of instruction on who to trust, run with or stay-away from.

So thankful that God put more that just the plan of salvation in his WORD. The daily living 'helps' that he provides is limitless and truthful... you can bank on it!

What about you? Do you have any other "Unsafe People" characteristics that we need to "watch out" for? Remember, this is serious business! Our very soul is in the balance, depending on our decisions.